Monday, December 11, 2006

Can't seem to get it together

I can't find the time to blog and to keep my house clean. How many of you keep up with your housework daily? I want to know, who stays on top of laundry(folded and put away), kitchen floor, bathroom floor, tub, toilet, refrigerater, base boards, ceiling fans, clutter clearing, sorting through clothes, giving to good will... Who has a regular routine? Who doesn't? And not just because of blogging but other things like staying at home with your kids , running from here to there blah, blah, blah. You see my husband doesn't think I keep up with enough. He wants everything done. I can understand, I stay at home, I should do most housework. My house isn't dirty. It's just that some things I dont find as important as my husband does. I guess I should make things easier on myself come home right away after I drop Hailee and do some cleaning. Instead of heading to Starbucks or hooking up with a friend for lunch or whatever it is that I do. So please tell me. What do you guys do?


Anonymous Jill said...

Ha ha ha... I try and try but don't seem to say on top of everything. Also if your husbands office was 5 or 6 rooms full of work, he might not get all his work done either right? And please you have 2 kids. I have 3 plus my hubbster and they don't do much to help so I have a TON to do daily. I just decided to make a chore chart for my older 2 kids so they can help. If you want the link for it, email me and I'll give you mine.

I think every mother and wife goes through this - DAILY. I think the only women who stay on top of everything have hubby's that do as much to help, have a cleaning lady or are flippin' nuts from going 90 miles per hour all day every day.

8:50 AM  
Blogger BJ said...

Well...I could go on and on about this one. But, I'll just say that my husband, your dad, never criticized me about anything that he thought I should have supposedly done in the house. I put the pressure on myself and tried to be super mom/wife, etc. It was insane and I should have not worried about it. Just the way I was made, I guess. My mom, was a cleaning fanatic. I guess that's where I got it from. Your dad used to joke and say, "why is it that if a house is dirty, they always blame the wife"? We laughed about it.
So, I say, if hubby is the one that is so worried about the house being so clean, that he clean it. He can also do the laundry, take care of kids and cook too. All that and work his regular job. Granted, staying at home and raising children is a wonderful thing. But, it is not an easy job, you don't get coffee or cigarette breaks, an hour for lunch or a very flexible schedule. On top of all that, you have a puppy that needs as much attention as any child does. You do this job day in and day out. You never get a break. Kelli, you are a wonderful mom, so patient and loving and hubby should be counting his lucky stars that you came into his life. Cause honestly, I think he hit the jackpot!!!!!!
Now, that's all I have to say. And I love him too!

2:45 PM  
Anonymous Nicole said...

If I can keep clean laundry on our bodies and clean dishes in our kitchen, I'm a happy woman. I occasionally chase down dust bunnies and mop the floors, but as a general rule? our house is "lived in."

My husband doesn't bitch. If he did, I'd gladly hand over the duties to him.

7:45 PM  
Anonymous sarahgrace said...

Oh do I know how you feel!!! I never am able to stay on top of anything. I am constantly doing laundry and fixing meals- then I try to take some time for myself which I feel is pretty important to our success as a happy family (you know, like your going to Starbucks or meeting with a friend.) I keep telling myself, that when I get to heaven, I'm not going to wish my house was cleaner- I'm going to wish I spent more time with so and so or doing something fun. (Now to convince my hubby of that!) But still...I struggle with wanting my house to be cleaner anyways. Right there with ya, sista! ; )

9:10 AM  
Blogger Amanda said...

I worked all day Sunday trying to clean. i kept thinking this house is going to look great by 5:00. At 5:00 it looked the same as it looked at 9:00 that morning. So frustrating.
So,anyway housework is hard. Kelli don't worry about it. The kids are more important. You have a full time job BEING A MOM. That's hard work.

Love YA!!!

9:35 AM  
Blogger Anne said...

The solution is to make the husband stay at home with the girls for one solid week, while maintaining the house. I think men just don't have a clue about it until they are faced with the same challenges.

Staying on top of laundry and the floor and the bathrooms and food and organized playtime (yeah right) is next to impossible when you have more than one child.

1:30 PM  
Anonymous Mama C-ta said...

OK Kelli - I've been to your house, many times on extremely short notice and you know what? It looks darn spotless to me. People need hazmat suits to enter mine.

That's one thing that I love about Bryan though, he always said that he doesn't care about anything, just for me to take care of Julian and he never put any kind of pressure or expectations on keeping the house in any kind of way. Probably b/c he knows I'd tell him to kiss my butt :)

I'm w/your mom, if someone living in the house has a problem w/it's current state, here's the broom. You have a FT job too. You even said you should take it easy on yourself and when you drop Hailee off - RELAX don't clean if you aren't up for it.

7:27 PM  
Blogger The Mom said...

Well first of all, and most important, do NOT give up Starbucks and lunch with girlfriends (at least not until we can manage to hook up for lunch some time)! You need your time and adult interaction, just like most people get when they work outside the home. Aaron may want a spic and span house but I'm sure he wants a sane, contented wife more! Next, and if it's at all possible, two words: cleaning lady! I'm home now on maternity leave but even when I work I work from home, and there's just no time to do it all. If you can manage to get a cleaning lady, even if only once a month, it helps. If it's not an option then just try to do one thing a day... laundry today, vaccuum tomorrow, bathrooms the next, etc. so it's not so overwhelming.

I love the quote from your dad that your mom offered:"why is it that if a house is dirty, they always blame the wife?" AMEN! Hello! Men and children are messy! Just because you're a SAHM doesn't mean you're going to spend every second picking up after people. Make them clean up their own messes. Gianna's old enough to use a broom right? ;)

9:39 AM  
Anonymous Aaron said...

I grew up in a house where cleanliness was very important. My mom made sure that is was, and she worked hard, yes, maybe too hard. But her philisophy was to have a clean, peaceful home for her husband. I am not asking that.

I love my wife, and want her to be happy. I am trying to make it easier on her. And I do a hell of alot of things around the house. I vacuum, dust, do laundry, fold the laundry, clean, take care of the outside, take out the trash, clean the bathroom, and oh yeah this is when I get home from running a company. And making sure my employees all get paid, and my wife gets the check, and the doctor gets the money for the kids, and my Mother and Father get a ckeck to take care of them, and my brother gets a check to take care of him, and on and on.

So if you think for a moment that I don't help, you are all gravely mistaken. I have been home with the kids and I know that it is damn hard. They are a constant need. But if my mom found a way to go overboard and take care of three kids, then it is my God Given Right to ask my wife to take care of a few little things.

Kelli didn't ask for advice on how to get her husband to do more. She asked if anyone had any suggestions on how to make it easier. So if anyone has any advice on that, it would be great.

That last comment was great!

And my question is if you take an hour two days a week to do laundry, then wouldn't it be easy not to have to worry about it for the rest of the week?

My philosophy is if you do a little a day, then you will have more free time to do what you want!

So suggestions please, not advice on how Kelli's husband doesn't do enough!

Kelli's Husband

1:34 PM  
Anonymous Mama C-ta said...

Aaron - I hope my comment didn't seem like a personal attack (I can see how it would) but I know you do a lot in your non-working hours - I've seen your finished basement and I think most of the awesome decorating is b/c of you... sorry Kelli! :)

My comment was a poor attempt at trying to get Kelli not put so much pressure on herself and underestimate all that she does accomplish. I've been to many SAHM's houses and trust me, yours is at the top of the cleanliness list. Dead serious. So if she doesn't think her house is clean then I'm screwed.

But if Kelli really wants some tips here is how I keep a few things clean:

Kitchen Floor - let Julian eat and then let the dogs out of the crate to lick the floor clean. I'll even throw a piece a food to an area they aren't getting to make sure it gets cleaned as well.

Rest of the hardwood floors - keep socks on and change them ever couple hours once they are too covered in dog hair to pick up any more.

Toilets - close the lid

Tub - swish the baby around as you give her a bath or rub the bottom with your foot when you shower.

Folding laundry - don't bother taking it out of the dryer. It not only stays clean but it saves you a lot of time not having to fold it and put it away. Run it again for a few minutes when you need to wear something to get the wrinkles out. Or better yet, don't wash it.

Refrigerator - keep it stocked with food so none of the dirty shelves show

Base boards - push some furniture in front of them

Ceiling fans - don't look up

And when all else fails, wear some sexy lingerie - husband doesn't even notice we have a house then. ;)

I know, always a smart ass. :) Seriously, just trying to keep the toys put away is a full time job. As soon as they are away they are all over the floor again. What's the point in vacuuming if you can't get around the toys.

7:30 AM  
Anonymous Aaron said...

That is great advice!

3:07 PM  
Blogger Heaven Sent said...

I am struggling with this myself. Jeff isn't brave enough to say anything ;) but like your mom, I put the pressure on myself. Working at home AND taking care of a busy toddler makes it hard to get any cleaning done. So more often than not, it's straightened up around here, but that's about. Dishes and laundry are about the only two things I can seem to stay on top of. Sadly enough, clean toliets are a luxury to me these days!

10:14 AM  
Anonymous holli said...

It is way too hard to keep up with everything. And I am not even going to get started on the husband front because we are having some serious issues in this area. Like - maybe I'll just email my personal therapist (aka your mommy) and she can tell you.

What do we do? We get up at 4am and argue.

8:07 AM  
Anonymous Mama C-ta said...

Merry Christmas guys!

8:00 PM  
Blogger BlondeMom said...

I don't have a routine but I probably need one. Right now on Christmas Day of course the house is very lived in and I have two enormous mountains of clean laundry on top of the washer/dryer waiting to be put up. Oh, and now I hear the baby in the dog's I must run ! ;)

12:38 PM  

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